The Mom Confidence Campaign soldiers on! Today we’re going to talk about a stupid-simple way that moms can get healthy- that almost no one is using!
As we continue to move through our Mom Confidence Campaign, I hope you’re finding some nuggets here that are changing how you’re looking at your own habits, your body, your parenting, and what you’re accomplishing from day to day… because it is enough!
My goal today is to remind you once again that if you truly want to change, if you truly want to get better, it is going to begin with love.
This is why this Mom Confidence thing is so darn important to me- because too many of us are doing it backwards!
We think that getting down on ourselves and finally getting fed up with our bad habits, bad behavior, bad attitudes is going to light a fire under us to change.
And it might… for a bit.
But here’s what I know for certain:
Lasting positive change will occur, and with exponentially more ease, when you are in pursuit of something good, instead of running away from something bad.
Does that make sense?
I know what you might be thinking. Something like this, right?
“But Cori, all the diets/workout routines/you-name-it’s I have ever started have been because I have been fed up and sick and tired of sucking at you-name-it!”~You
I get it. I really do. Because for years and years (a good couple decades), that’s exactly how I started new habits.
But they never stuck!
So many diets. So many workout programs. So many clean-eating campaigns. All because I was sick and tired of feeling miserable in my own body.
It goes for personal growth goals, too! I’d get sick of feeling like a bad mom and I’d read another book, trying to get my parenting habits to where I’d feel better about them.
I’d feel lousy in my marriage and I’d read a book or commit to a 30-day “Love Your Spouse” challenge.
And I’d truck along for a bit, truly wanting to make these habits stick, truly thinking, “I can do this, I can stop sucking!”
And then it’d fizzle. Sometimes it’d take a week, maybe a month. Sometimes I’d barely get out of the starting gate before I’d falter.
When good habits became easy? When I made them about just freaking wanting to feel good!
I know. It’s stupid simple. It can’t possibly be that easy!
But it is.
We change through love, not self-loathing.
Read it again, please, Mom!
We change through love, not self-loathing.
When you’re wondering if you’re speaking to yourself out of self-loathing, here’s the test: would you speak to your best friend or your child in that way?
And if the answer is no, then change it. ASAP. Because you deserve love and you deserve to feel love coming at you from every angle, but most importantly from the inside-out.
Please, please, please hear me! I know it sounds stupid-simple, and it kind of is, but when you embrace it, it will change. Your. Life.
Running away from feeling lousy might get you moving but pursuing something positive, something good, something nurturing and joyful, is what will keep you moving.
What does this look like in real life?
- Want to eat better? Focus on eating the foods, drinking the water, all with the goal of feeling clean, lean, energized, and proud of yourself when you put your head on the pillow. Ignore the plans and gurus. Eat in a way that gives you energy and makes you feel clean, lean, energized, and proud of yourself when you put your head on the pillow. Love yourself. Pursue goodness.
- Want to workout? Stop making it about burning off calories and punishing your body. Make it about how you’re going to feel afterwards…. sweaty. Proud. Accomplished. Like you can take on the world. Love your body by celebrating how it moves. Even if you are at square one and have almost no fitness- move. And be proud of your movement.
- Want to feel better in your marriage? Focus on love. Focus on you, taking great care of you, and making emotional space for grace and forgiveness. Remind yourself that you are not responsible for anyone but you. Stay in your lane, and make your lane as positive and loving as you can. Let the small stuff go as much as you can, ask for what you need. And recognize that being disappointed isn’t the same as not being loved. Try to see things from your partner’s perspective. Focus. On. Love.
Yes, it’s stupid-simple. And yes, it’s a practice that may not come naturally at first.
But honestly, if you’re struggling, what do you have to lose? Nothing to lose, everything to gain!
And today’s best may not be what you want it to be, but if it is your best, it’s good enough!
Celebrate your best, today. Give yourself a little credit, and a little love. And when you celebrate with a little self-love, you’ll be able to layer more positive change on top of more positive change!
Stupid-simple. So very intuitive. And yet, not easy.
You’ve become accustomed to comparing yourself, and finding yourself lacking, right?
So, starting today, why not change that?
What do you have to lose? Negativity, pain, frustration, overwhelm, disappointment, sadness…
Seems okay to me!
And what might you gain?
The ability to see yourself as others see you.
I think it’s worth a try, don’t you?
I want to hear from you! Is this resonating? Hitting a nerve, in a good way, or even in a not-so-good way? Please let me know in the comments!
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